You can’t force change at home – even when you try really hard. If you think dealing with “stuff” at home feels hard, stop and take a deep breath. There is something in you that still needs to be shifted, released or healed before anything much can change around you. You and your home are energetically connected. How many times have you had great intentions about getting things done at home (maybe organizing your desk, cleaning your closet or clearing your dining room table of papers) and gotten stuck within fifteen minutes of starting. That’s because you have not yet made the inner shift (thoughts, beliefs, emotions) to match the change you want to make.
When you are ready for change, it comes relatively easily. You spring into action, you release thoughts of not having enough time, money or help. You know what to do and you do it. Things like time, money and help begin to appear bit by bit, until they flow to you easily. Until that time, be gentle with yourself.
Here is a little something to help you get started:
- Always begin by noticing your thoughts – and consciously taking them to feeling good, even if only for a few minutes. Remind yourself that change is easier when you take it one step at a time. Allow yourself to feel hope and relief – and even anticipation.
- Pick one specific area of your home that is normally “scruffy” and tidy it up. Choose something gratifying but not overwhelming (say as little as 5 minutes but no more than 20-30 minutes to make it clean and tidy initially) but a place that is noticeable in the course of your day – maybe your bedside table, your dresser, your coffee table, a section of your kitchen counter, your kitchen sink area, your bathroom counter or your front hall. Once you have that area clean and tidy, make a point, every day for at least a week, of keeping that one place clean and tidy all the time until you notice that it feels natural to have it that way.
- Then notice how quickly it feels irritating if that place starts to get scruffy again – and congratulate yourself! You have just made a shift that will stay with you.
- Get excited – pick another area and repeat the process. And so on. Train yourself to notice when clean and tidy (and eventually beautiful) feel better.
When it comes to real, lasting change, easy does it – one step at a time.
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